How to Manage Relationship Conflicts With an Ex?

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People have differing degrees of soothe with conflict. Few favor avoiding that at all costs. Unluckily, those costs will tend to increase longer conflicts are left un-addressed. Thus, learning how you can manage & resolve relationship conflict is to your advantages and when dealing with the conflict:

Treat it as being normal & expected. Conflict have not be catastrophic and personal. Conflict is just a part of human. Deal with the issues when they arise and avoiding conflict will make state worse. Time doesn’t resolve the matters. Instead, it decreases chance of positive outcome and attempt to know other person’s view. Dismissing other’s opinion, assigning blame as well as focus on your perspective are counterproductive. Do not judge emotions and nobody’s feelings are “right” than others. Feelings reflect valid perspective of individual and although you do not know it, acknowledge other person’s response as very important.

Focus on behavior, situation and problem area without even attacking person involved. Don’t assume your beliefs or values are “right” and they reflect view of world from your perspective. Respecting your partner’s viewpoint as valuable opens the opportunity for learning & growth. Dealing with the conflict doesn’t have to be dreaded and feared. Interpersonal conflict is natural component of the human interaction and actually, if a problem is object of focus against people involved, then disagreements will generate new ideas & growth. Dealing with conflicts when they occur, acknowledging other party’s feelings & perspective, as well as avoiding the judgment and blame increase chance of the productive conflict resolution.

Conflict Resolution

When somebody does something that we don’t like, we generally tend to concentrate on what they have done wrong. We judge and criticize also we point what we think to be their mistakes. Person feels hurt and angry and conflict escalates & distance occurs.

To resolve a conflict with your ex, talk openly with your former girlfriend about the battle. Suggest a compromise if you have one in mind. If a debate ensues, avoid attacking her character and hold your temper in check if you feel insulted. Admit when you are wrong and, if things don’t go your way, avoid sulking.

Remember:

  1. Your Child Always Comes First.
  2. Don’t Let It Scare You.
  3. Let the Past Be the Past.
  4. Clarify, Don’t Assume.
  5. Give Yourself A Chance to Think.
  6. Winning Isn’t Everything
  7. Word Choice and Tone Are Key.

Also, remember to

  1. Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent to the kid.
  2. Support communication between your child and ex-spouse.
  3. Identify what Is most important to you as a parent.
  4. Consider the other parent when making decisions about your child.

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