How to win friends and influence others

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The most underrated aspect of leadership is the charm of winning new people and making friends. 

Winning new people is an art that warrants you to be humble and sincere at the same time. Although you might think you’re clever, you must learn to put your wits to the test and listen carefully to others to get a clue about them. Never be afraid to speak your mind, no matter how silly or ignorant of the topic. If your friends think you are unintelligent, they may start to take you lightly.

Always be appreciative of them. Honest appreciations are a good thing. If your friends feel good about themselves, they will feel good about you as well. However, if you repeatedly show them that you think they are useless, they will eventually begin to avoid you. If you do this enough, you will no longer be welcome among your friends.

“People who love you will be pleased to see you.” This way of thinking can often result in great friendships, as people are naturally drawn to those who love them, and they look forward to being together. If you feel this way about someone, they will, in return, begin to feel the same way about you and will want to spend time with you and share their life with you.

 Whether you like it or not, many people will be harsh critics, and if you take the criticisms in stride and respond in a respectful manner, you will find that the majority of people will be extremely friendly to you and will want to help you in any way they can. Do not take it personally if you are accused of something in return. People are usually just trying to point out the bad things about you in an attempt to make themselves look good.

Here are a few ways to win friends and make people like you

  1. Become interested in other people, and show genuineness and honestly while you are at it.
  2. Smile often at others, and it’ll attract a tribe worth keeping.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is the most important and sweetest sound in any language. Make it count. 
  4. Be a good listener; people love good listeners as they are rare species in today’s world. Listen often, speak less, and be genuinely concerned when someone is sharing problems. Give solutions but first, give compassion. 
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s goals and interests.
  6. Make other people feel important – and do it honestly. Giving importance to other people and making them feel good will insecure their emotional security. 

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