In Love, is Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?


You must have heard people saying “once a cheater, always a cheater” wherever relationship matters are concerned. This saying is so widespread that some people automatically believe it to be the absolute truth. While no sensible person will justify cheating, that does not mean the saying is necessarily the gospel truth. Although, some cheaters are incorrigible with distinctly dishonest characteristics and will not change for anything in the world. 

The incorrigible cheats are usually narcissists who are inherently evil and have shameful histories of frequent cheating and see nothing wrong in being dishonest with their lovers. For these people, cheating is a thing of entertainment/fun, and they do not ever think of the devastating emotional hurt and psychological pain that they are causing others. Hence, their chances of changing are slimmer than anyone can think. It is not unusual for us to consider many of our exes to be nothing but narcissists, narcissism is a dangerous psychological trait to be seen in anyone and must not be ignored.

On the other hand, some serial cheaters have attachment problems that cause them to stray. These people often had a childhood full of emotional trauma and can decide to stray from their present relationships to seek safety and stability. This is the same way a teenager will rebel against the parents just that the rebellion in this instance has to do with cheating on the romantic partner. 

Also, while attachment issues can explain why some cheated in the past, that is not what happens always. This is to state that many individuals who cheat not serial cheaters are, implying that they can be changed positively via some efforts. 

Various factors can lead to cheating in a romantic relationship. These can be the factors within the relationship itself or even external influences like lack of faith in monogamy, stress, self-confidence, or esteem matters. Hence, the fact that someone has cheated in the past does not mean that the individual will remain unfaithful for life. 

Romantic couples can work together regarding their past and even the present relationship in overcoming the matters of infidelity. For those who must deal with someone who was once cheated or a partner that has cheated serially in a relationship, some moves can be taken and things that can be done. 

The first thing you need to know is that human beings are prone to making mistakes. Since your partner is a human being, he or she is not perfect and can make serious mistakes. You do not have to assume that your partner is a perfectly flawless being because you are bound to be disappointed. Even though infidelity is not the same as imperfection, you should be open-minded and realistic so that you do not just write off your lover entirely because someone cheated in the past or even during the relationship. 

Frequently, many engage in cheating because of what is known as low self-esteem. They may feel that they need the attention of another person before they can feel worthy or desirable. That can happen when they are being ignored by their current lover or it can simply be because the person is battling some confidence issues. 

While one must always hold the cheater possible for his or her actions, one must also realize that several factors can lead a person to become a cheater. Hence, when we are analyzing mistakes made by cheaters, it is good to pay attention to the kind of mistakes that cause people to resort to cheating. If you are in a relationship, grow with your partner.  

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