One of the most extensive emotional breakdowns a person can go through is during a breakup. The problems usually begin when people get comfortable in their relationship and stop being attentive to each other. The relationship becomes dead and seems to be going nowhere. At least, this is how one person in the relationship will feel. This is what typically leads to the breakup, and what you need to overcome to reconnect your relationship.
All it takes is for one person in the relationship to begin feeling stuck in a rut not only in their relationship but also in other aspects of their life. Even though you feel that the relationship is still going strong, your partner might feel as though you are supporting and things aren’t moving forward. You might be utterly unprepared for the breakup to happen, and this is the point when you will either lose that person forever or rebuild a much stronger bond between you. Most people do what their emotions lead them to do and ruin everything completely.
When you go through the initial stages of the breakup, it is essential to be supportive and understanding. This doesn’t mean that you need to agree with the breakup. You can make it known that you don’t want to lose them, but you understand that they might need some time apart. Now the hard part is to stop thinking about getting them back and start thinking of making yourself a better person. You need to understand that one of your ex’s thoughts is that there might be someone better out there for them. You will always be in their mind and cared for, but you need to make yourself a better person for them to notice.
At this point, your ex believes that they know everything about you, right down to every flaw. It would be best if you let them discover that they were wrong and there is more to you than they know. A little mystery will go a long way. At this point, it is important to make sure you take the initial time to find new activities and tasks for yourself to keep you busy and keep your mind off of your ex. This is the most challenging time because all you will want to do is call or make surprise visits to your ex. This will only frustrate them and make you look desperate. This will only drive them further away and not want anything more to do with you.
If you take the time apart and do things such as clean up your place, redecorate, change your hairstyle, buy some new clothes, take dancing lessons, learn how to play guitar, etc. The idea is not to make contact with your ex first. Let them be the ones to contact you, and when they do, try to keep the conversation short. Do not talk about your past relationship with them at all. Try to be the one that ends the conversation also. Let them know that you need to be somewhere, but you would like to hear from them again soon. This will spark their curiosity and make them wonder how well they knew you and that maybe they were holding you back. This is what you want because they might start to realize that you were the right person for them and they were the ones that had the issues.