Self-Esteem and Ego: Differences a Leader Needs to Know

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Humanity students know that the ‘ego’ is ‘self’, and it means the way one thinks of themselves. Some think that their presence is all empowering for others and that the world will fall if they were not around. That is a super-charge ego that makes people promote their ideas and thought down everyone’s neck, irrespective of whether they want to hear them or not. On the other hand, self-esteem is respect for self, and having confidence within that helps fight problems one faces in life.

The latter can be seriously damaged by exclusion and criticism, while the former stays no matter what others say or do. 

Here are a few differences between self-esteem and ego worth noting

  • Self-esteem essentially means “I am happy with myself for what I have done.” It says, “I know I am capable of doing it.”
  • Ego means, “I’m not sure I can do it, but I am going to fool my way through it.” It is bragging, boastful. 

A person with good self-esteem is working to assist others without looking for recognition for the self. The more we are in service to others, the less we are in service to the self. Lack of self-esteem is not knowing what you can do. A person with no self-esteem has stepped off their spiritual path. They say, “I don’t know” often. They look to others regularly for advice on what they should do. They give their energy away.

Ego, on the other hand, is always aiming for attention. The ego has no knowledge base, so it diverts everything to the self. People with egos love themselves too much, whereas people with self-esteem value themselves. A self-centered, egoistic person goes to such an extreme that they exhibit narcissistic traits and see the world through a distorted lens. 

Egoistic people are always worried and insecure about themselves, their image, and how they are trying to judge them. They’re mostly alone. They never think about others. On the other hand, people with good self-esteem have empathy and more fulfilling relationships. Ego stops you from feeling empathy and compassion.

People with a big ego can’t stand hearing criticism. They take it as an attack and then spend time trying to seek revenge no matter how constructive the criticism is. They get annoyed and start blaming other people. Those with good self-esteem are able to understand their defects and work on it. 

If there’s nothing in it for them, self-centered, egoistic people won’t take other people into account. People with healthy self-esteem don’t act this way. They don’t exploit other people as a means to an end. Instead, they know that they have the opportunity to learn and grow through every synergy, and so they spend time trying to interact, communicate and build relationships rather than using people as stepping stones. 

People with roaring egos think they are above everyone else. The world revolves around them, according to them, and they feel they are more powerful, more intelligent, or more beautiful. Egoistic people have nothing good to say about anyone. Lastly, leaders with good self-esteem know that no one is greater than anyone else; everyone has their own distinct trait. Thus, they don’t make comparisons. They speak good about others without insecurities. 

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