The Thought Process that can make or break a leader

Thought Process Chance Change
Thought Process Chance Change

It’s so simple to get totally caught up in daily life that we usually go through it without giving it a thought. I find this rather unusual. So much of life can just go on auto-pilot. When our lives are going on auto-pilot, where is our mind?

When I started to pay close attention to what was running through my mind, I was intrigued and somewhat freaked out. I observed that when I felt uneasy, I was thinking some nasty, cruel, terrible things. I imagined thoughts like, “They must feel I’m a fake,” and “there’s no way I’m will capable of completing this task at present.” I found it extremely scary that I had been holding on to these thoughts without even really realizing it. Although first confronting our thoughts can be dangerous, it’s a rather freeing practice. Once we understand what we are really thinking, we can do something about it.

Confronting the reality about what is going on in your mind is a necessary step on the path to successful leadership and, ultimately, happiness.

If you are in the practice of exploring your thoughts and your mindset in different situations already, then I’m really sure you know what the mind-watching practice is like. If you are brand-new to thought-watching, let me recommend some tips to get you started. 

First, you should notice those times when you felt anything less than relaxed and happy. Our natural state is relaxed and happy. If you think anything less than that, there is likely a thought-stopping you from feeling great. That particular thought is a culprit that needs recognition first. 

Second, focus on becoming a smart detective in your own brain and mind. 

What thoughts are crawling through your mind when you’re not happy and when you are not feeling alright? Observe if you can find some things along the lines below:

  • What if they don’t like me?
  • They must think I’m [something not positive].
  • I can’t do that.
  • I always screw up.
  • She’s never nice to me.
  • What if I get fired?
  • What if I lose my only source of income.
  • What if he leaves me?
  • I am ugly, obese, with pimples and bad hair.

There are limitless possibilities to what the images are behind your emotions. Start observing if you can notice the thoughts.

As soon as you grow aware of the considerations in your head, you can pick whether or not to believe them and trust them. As I like saying, “They are nothing but merely some thoughts that are trying to screw us over.” It is likely that the thoughts you are considering, such as “I am such a big screw up,” just might not be accurate. 

Would you be willing to believe that possibility?

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