Relationship communication issues happen because every one of us has specific individual features. We may have some similarities in tastes, hairstyles, emotions, etc., but nobody has the same aspects. Thus, when we speak with each other, it is not unusual to find that we can have issues. Each of us thinks differently, has different beliefs, perspectives, and ideas. By knowing the people around you, you can learn to accept the differences we all carry.
Many suggest being honest with your partner and presenting your opinions and thoughts openly. That is an excellent action to take since psychics, magicians, and mind readers are the kinds of stuff of legends. However, do be cautious with the way you utilize your words. You may be asserting a simple truth: your partner is not acting something right, but from your partner’s delicate point of view, you may appear to be condemning and criticizing. Knowing how to use the correct words, possibly at the right time as well, could help avert a misunderstanding. Even the most calm-tempered and patient person would have a weak point which you may unintentionally hit and get them angry.
When speaking your piece, think first before you speak. Think about what you are planning to say and dodge making any overly-criticizing statements. Your primary purpose is to convey your partner a message about what is occurring in your relationship. Slowly join the idea of what you feel about the circumstances. Do not make any comments that involve your spouse. This, always remember to put your feelings under control and stay composed. You would want to evade sounding accusatory and making your partner overly defensive, which may become a roadblock to your communication.
Dodging the blame would be best to start a conversation about a probably sensitive issue. Assuring your partner that she will not be criticized and conveying that it is all right for everybody to commit blunders would open her mind and allow her to reflect on her mistakes and reconsider her actions. Making her liable or criticizing her will only upset her, resulting in undesirable results.
Here is an instance of how an individual could phrase it if a wife is really caught up in her shopping spree: “Shopping is a nice way to enjoy and is much fun to have new things in our possession, especially since you have worked so hard to keep our home in shape. I am happy, but I do hope we will have sufficient savings for rainy days. As we all know, making money isn’t easy.” Note that the central issue is not addressed directly, and instead, it adores the wife for her great work as part of the family, thus making it seem as if her shopping spectacles are deserved. The last sentence will send her the advice that she needs to watch how she spends the funds and when she thinks of the reason herself, she assures herself.
It may be challenging for us to transform the way we speak, and maybe even more challenging to keep our changed speeches, but if we keep practicing and trying, we would ultimately learn to say the right things at the right time, without fail.
