In the tale of your life, do you play the victim or the hero?
First, let me begin this by saying that there are days in our lives when we are victims of some horrible trauma or tragedy, and it is genuinely not our fault. That is not what I’m talking about today.
I want to talk about how you really go through life in general. Do you address life playing the role of a hero – wanting to use your innovating superpowers to serve others and transform the world? Or do you address life playing the role of a victim – always wanting to blame someone for all the problems in the world?
You might ask, “Who cares? Why does it matter?” It apparently matters because “We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
So when hurdles are right in front of a hero’s life and when they are facing a challenging situation, they rise like a phoenix bird to the situation and find a way around them.
However, when barriers arise in a victim’s life, they fall and mourn their condition. The hero ultimately finds a way around, over or through, while the victim plays dead in place, thwarted before they ever tried to solve the problems or even got started.
And what precisely is the difference between the two? What truly makes one succeed and the other fail? I guess you know the answer – it solely lies in their perspective, their very vision of life.
The hero sees obstacles as beatable, do-able, overcome-able. The victim sees difficulties as stop signs, roadblocks, and impasses.
What do you, as a leader, see when life throws something in your path in your professional and personal life? Do you believe that there is a way to work past it, or do you wave a white flag and give up without even trying?
Here’s are two significant secrets about life:
- Life works when you do. Life is only a reaction to your action; it only revolves around your thought process and perception.
- Your viewpoint on life is 90% of the answer to any issue that emerges. By combining a positive outlook and actions, you can become the hero of your life story with the desire to jump in and take wise action.
To implement this quickly, I urge you to think of a scenario in your life where you have felt stumped or stymied. Take your mind back to that very situation and wear the hero hat and not a victim hat. Look at it yet again from this new angle. And see what brand-new possibilities open up for you.
As a leader, you become a hero only when you decide to stop playing victim card.
For each new day is a fresh canvas to paint upon. Make sure your picture is full of happiness and life, and at the end of the day, you don’t stare at it and wish you had painted something different.