In 2021, can there really be romance without discussing the economics behind it? A normal saying goes (people don’t usually say it, but yes, they believe in it) No romance, without economics. But what does it really mean? After thinking about it and a careful look at the big picture, we see that it derives from the fact that in the modern world, there is some level of bias to any choice we make, including our determination to be in love or not.
Therefore, in a land of paradise, it would seem absolutely reasonable that love would experience no biases and know no bounds. However, in our world, far from any paradise lands, preferences start to play their strange roles, in one way or the other.
From a financial standpoint, most people (both men, women, and others) want to be properly secure and go with whoever comes suitable regarding finances. But economics isn’t the only prejudice in our society: level of education, upbringing, carriage, manners, persona, height, etiquette, charm, to name a few. Plus, of course, they should be generally approved by our parents and other loved ones.
However, expression of our individual biases does not mean we are self-seeking individuals or mean people. On the contrary, the biases point immediately to two primary glaring things: that we are humans in a fairly imperfect world and our very basic human nature, with its impulses and elements of free will and choice, allow us to narrow our choices till we arrive at the ultimate love of our lives.
But is this love so limited, divine, and pure, or is it just a load of nonsense anyway? Yes it can be divine and pure; no, it is not a lot of nonsense. Why? Because from our very natures and the nature of the earth in which we live, we must tolerate our whims until we see the Fair Maiden or Prince Charming, whoever they really turn out to be.
True love explored in this manner mustn’t be mixed with “love” that stems from a desire for greed and self-gain. Yes, money may drive a romance. And yip, it is entirely possible that for the less-materialistic of us, money does pull love, but to a much more inferior degree than may be deemed healthy by most standards.
A lust for self-victory and the romantic relationships that derive from money may only be considered disgusting and greedy if the romance results in material possessions and nothing else.
A money-motivated romantic relationship then, in this sphere, may not be real love at all, but just the desire for self-gain and the love of self. At the same time, while most honest folk may not have a no-holds-barred approach toward the ‘present’ financial/material status of the one they fancy, everyone wants to see that the loved one has some desire or “prospects” and urge to make something of her or himself in life. No one really wants to be in love with a person with no future. In this regard, because of the primary instinct of survival, which is perhaps the most incredible instinct of all living creatures, humans included, we may assume true love.
However, true love can only be assumed in this last context after being tested, not to be a game for the gold, but as a really natural state of mind.