Going into a new year, many people have high hopes of achieving new goals. Sadly, most New Year’s resolutions end up abandoned quite early. But this year does not have to follow the same old pattern with the same lack of results. With a few tips, 2021 can be the year you reach your goals.
According to Christine Deschemin, a certified clinical hypnotherapist and creator of the UpNow self-hypnosis app and the Renewed Edge Hypnotherapy Centre founder, even the most gung-ho person can end up sabotaging their success if they don’t restructure their strategic plan. “People typically fail because they apply the wrong strategies to formulating their New Year resolutions and carrying them out. Most people pay too much attention to what they want to stop doing instead of what they want to achieve,” says Deschemin. She adds that the real secret to success is to gain a laser-focus on what’s most essential and visualize your life when you achieve it.
Whether it’s getting your finances in order or getting healthy, Deschemin says ‘success begets success.’ This fact is why failed New Year’s resolutions tend to scar us and make us feel incapable of staying true to our goals. Deschemin adds, “If you become used to repeating the same goals many years in a row and not achieving them, you might lose confidence in your ability to achieve success.” But once you reframe your mind to focus on one goal you want enough to work for, you can achieve your dreams.
In his article, The Psychology of New Year’s Resolutions, Mark Griffiths, a behavioral addictions professor at Nottingham Trent University, says, “The main reason people don’t stick to their resolutions is that they set too many or they’re unrealistic to achieve. They may also be victims of ‘false hope syndrome.’ False hope syndrome is characterized by a person’s unrealistic expectations about the likely speed, amount, ease, and consequences of changing their behavior.” Like Deschemin, Griffiths seems to agree that a lack of focus can sabotage your success. Being realistic about these other factors can also keep you from faltering and abandoning your goals.
With the emotional ups and downs of this year, many people are making resolutions focused on healing the wounds in their relationships. Repairing a marriage is a worthwhile goal and will require the ‘laser-focus’ Deschemin recommends. Using alternative options such as hypnotherapy or other subconscious healing methods can free your past and help make your future goals attainable. Aisha Ahmed, a subconscious healing specialist, Body Code Practitioner, PSYCH-K Facilitator, and founder of ‘Aisha Heals,’ says couples sometimes need outside help to reconnect and shed their negative energy. This step is a positive one aiming for success, not one that continues to harbor a toxic pattern. Like Deschimen, Ahmed advocates alternative healing methods to help you, the person, before you can help yourself.
So, specifically, how can people find success with their resolutions this year? Deschemin says you need to create a plan with a series of micro-steps that lead you from here to there. It’s these micro-steps that pave the way for success. Giving yourself small tasks and celebrating achievements frequently keeps you motivated and working towards your goal.
Deschemin states, “Hypnotherapy can help people formulate the right goals, and it can help them release the blocks that have prevented them from achieving their goals. By leveraging the mind-body connection, hypnotherapy can help you develop a more useful perspective that leads you to take action.” Year after year, some people make the same resolutions, and they continually fail. Deschemin says this pattern will keep repeating if people don’t change how they approach their goals for the new year. She adds, “It all starts with mindset. And hypnotherapy can help you upgrade your mindset.”
Deschimen also adds that many medical and psychological associations approve hypnotherapy, and it has helped athletes and executives reach peak performance. With proven success for others, you could also benefit. Deschemin says that people can book sessions with a hypnotherapist or even download a self-hypnosis app. Will 2021 be the year you finally make a New Year’s resolution a reality? If so, it will mean choosing a ‘laser-focus,’ being realistic, and finding outside help if necessary. Add the possibility of trying hypnotherapy, and you have some great recommendations for ‘resolution success’ in 2021.