Now that all the holiday season’s excitement is getting over, and there are short days and cold nights, I’ve been feeling bored, exhausted, fat, over-stimulated, and have a peculiar feeling of being separated. All I need is detox and a new beginning in 2021. How to go about it?
Here are seven ways:
- Unsubscribe: I have deleted my Hulu and Netflix subscription from my TV for starters because I fall asleep with it humming on throughout the night. I have put a non-fiction book on my bedtime table instead. And, on those twilights when I’m home, I no longer gaze for hours in an almost trance-like state at the laptop, reading about the experiences of people I don’t even know. I also keep my iPhone in my bag when I’m out with colleagues because I really find it absurd to be sitting there texting when I’m supposed to be socializing with my friends. Not only that, it’s offensive.
- Subscribe: If I take the time to sit in silence and in stillness, to let all that shit that natters away in my mind 24/7, I soon realize that perhaps that air guitar version of “Born in the U.S.A.” that I mentally play in my head is not necessary when it’s time for a peaceful moment. So, instead of an analysis that works something like this – “I forgot to pick up Stain Remover. How sloppy am I? My boob’s itchy. I need to purchase a stamp. I wish I could get rid of this smokers’ cough. When will my nose stop running like a faucet?” Then, a choir of “I Heard It Through the Grapevine,” and back to “How am I gonna learn to get that Stain Remover?” I start to notice that when I take the time to shut the sound out of my chattering brain, I become less distracted the next time. The influence of a calm moment is this: I get to ‘break open the vintage bottles and stimulate the real Band.’
- Forgive and Forget: I mean, who doesn’t have an Ex that makes your blood boil thinking about them? (Hi Ron) I have finally realized that I have been lugging around this sensitive baggage with me for long enough. The only way I can get rid of this luggage is to become conscious that I own these contradictory feelings and re-train my mind to release them. This means that mercy is not about neglecting. Forgiveness is not doubting what happened or my opinions about it. Forgiveness is not excusing the other person. But, forgiveness is entirely unconditional. And forgiveness is a loop that happens over time and something that I do every time I sit ideal and think about past.
- Gratitude: I’ve come to discover that when I savor what I have, I sleep better. Cool right? So, basically, when I am grateful for what I already have in my life, it creates this more inclusive sense of happiness in myself, more confident emotions. And, that’s without having to go out and purchase anything! It helps me find my sleep every time. Win-Win, eh?
- Healthy Eating: I ate so many beautiful things and goodies over the Christmas weekend that I was starting to feel like an old fat Santa. Why did I do this to myself??!! Why don’t I have the nerve to say to myself, “Stop.” I don’t even have an unusual craving for sweets regularly… longing for salt is my thing. But, over the holiday season, I just can’t seem to get enough of those sensual delights. So, now, once again, I have to harmonize the brain to start eating properly, fruits, salads, healthy protein, vegetables, lots of water, and an “I can do this attitude.”
- Exercise: Oh, surprise, guys. I need to get up off my bed and exercise my body parts? Well, I’m going to start small. I’ll take a 30-minute brisk walk a day. And, while I’m at it, I’m going to make it a meditative walk. Leave my dusky iPhone at home. Just repeat in my head “right, left” as I move my legs. That’s it. Leave all those irritating voices at home too. You know the ones – the bitch, the nag, the worrier. I don’t need those patrons trailing along with me while I’m trying to get my figure back.
- Stop Over-Thinking: Which really, in the end, means to second guess myself. What if this happens? What if they will never like you? What if you can’t solve this puzzle? All these little noises again sneaking into my head are really unnecessary because they make me feel like shit. They are invalidating, hinder my ability to problem solve, drains my creativity and motivation, and interfere with my concentration and initiative. It’s time I stop. And find the best rather than the worst. This will take lots of practice, I know. But, I must seek control of my mind. Or it will end up controlling me. So, this one’s a keeper.