When I look back at how I lived in the past few decades, I recognize several things that happened in my life seem to “coincide” with my deep beliefs and desires. When I had a clear idea of what I wanted, had the picture of it in my mind as if I already had it, and felt very strongly about it – things would miraculously appear. Since it was merely my desire and the picture existed in my head alone, I was not questioning whether it’s possible or how precisely it would happen. I just recognized what I wanted to happen and felt it in my mind and body. At the same time, I was grateful for what I had learned from experience that things can always worsen.
The gratitude of what you have (health, family, home, and love) and don’t have (stress, anxiety, disease) is at the very foundation of manifesting your desires. When you fail at appreciating what you already created in your life, you sabotage your emotions and sensations, therefore undermining positive outcomes.
Being self-aware, mindful and restrained about your thought process – the private monolog that is always working in your head – is genuinely critical for your happiness and wellbeing. When you sense good about your life, body, work, and health – this good feeling will increase because we attract the vibration frequencies that resonate with those we emit.
Another significant thing to remember is the ability to “let go.” There were times when I felt apprehensive about something that may happen, and I was “living this worry” in expectation of the actual event. Sometimes my problems would become a reality, sometimes not, but the internal stress damage had lasting effects. The feelings of worry, fear, guilt, anger, revenge, regret, need to prove yourself to others cause distress and tension to our body and mind. Can you link to this?
So what can be done about it? After losing my husband and months of sleepless nights and self-isolation, here is what I discovered, and it works very well for me: to deal with this self-imposed suffering, ask yourself the following questions:
- Is there anything that I can do or improve to change my situation?
- Have I done all I possibly could to resolve my issue/dilemma/problem?
I refer to this approach, “Do your best and just leave the rest.”
If you think there is anything/something you could do to fix the situation – make a decision, take responsibility, and act on it. I only started writing for NYK Daily because I wanted to leave something behind for my grandkids. I wanted them to remember their grandma as a knowledgeable lady, and I know my boo is reading this article from above and missing me as much as I do.
However, if you genuinely can say that you’ve done your best and there is nothing else you can do to improve/ solve the situation – fix your intent and have faith that everything will work out for the best. You need to be able to let go, and the Higher Intelligence, the Power, God or whatever it is for you, will work it out for you. An ability to trust, receive and allow is essential for a balanced, happy and joyful life.
For some of us, this ability “to let go, to receive” is natural; for others (recovering skeptics, “worriers, perfectionists, and “complicators” like myself) – it is “a must develop” habit.
One more critical factor in creating your desires is being confident, not desperate. There were times when I wanted to walk to my husband so badly that I felt desperate to see it happening in my life.
I would “set the dead line” – in a couple of years, I will collapse, and my soul will reunite with him. But, it wouldn’t happen. This “thing” always bothered me about manifestation! In every motivational article, they talk about being passionate and clear about your desire, and I was. But what I didn’t know was that feeling of neediness and desperation cancels my ability to create the desired energy (pun intended), causing emotional blockages and sabotaging the indication process.
To manifest desires that come with a deadline, you need to have a precise definition of your desire, to picture it and feel it as if you already have it. Have a grateful soul, a relaxed mind and faith that things will work out for the best even if you don’t know how and when. Just go with the Flow.