My Neighbor’s Story
My neighbor, Henrietta, 72, and her husband had to take up a new responsibility of raising their grandchildren, Amel and Ava, four years ago.
This happened after Amel and Ava’s parents were killed in a car crash.
Here is what she says.
“Our twin grandchildren just finished high school and are leaving for college in September. Now we have to get them into college and graduate school. We are in our 70s and have health issues. Parenting teenagers while mourning for their mother — our daughter — is the most difficult thing ever. When the twins leave for college, I will grieve for their departure and continue to mourn for my daughter.”
Empty Nest Syndrome
Empty nest syndrome is a situation in which parents (in our case, grandparents) experience emotions of grief and emptiness when the last child leaves home. Although you might actively inspire your children to become free, the struggle of letting go can be painful.
According to young psychologists, parents need to recognize their grief and allow themselves to mourn. Just as important, parents need to get some form of comfort.
Concentrating on the specific aspects of an empty nest can also assist parents to deal with their sadness. Do you trust your children? If yes, then let them go, and they’ll never forget you. If no, then build that trust before they fly away.
The older Psychologists perceive empty nest syndrome from a different perspective. According to them, Empty Nest Syndrome is not a Mental Disorder. Parents have the satisfaction of seeing a grown-up child, chase dreams, and build an independent life. The parent-child relationship may shift to one of mutual respect and friendship.
Eventually, the syndrome allows parents to focus more on each other.
Back to Henrietta, she is getting ready for empty nest syndrome again. She has turned over two volunteer positions to others. To start something new, she has signed up to be a public library volunteer and will be working in the book store. Her husband agreed to explore Minnesota’s home state and take mini excursions to small towns and larger cities with her. She is also planning to buy a few new books. You can absolutely share your recommendations in the comments section. It will be duly conveyed.