There are many reasons our directors, co-workers, friends, clients, or children lose interest in hearing us out.
Here are six reasons why:
Not ready for the conversation
First impressions are lasting impressions. When we are not prepared for the discussion, there is less possibility of being heard. People understand whether we are ready or not. Likewise, if others are not prepared to listen to us, there is less chance of getting their consciousness unless we are ready to dazzle them and convince them to listen.
When we don’t put energy into communicating what we talk about, we instantly become annoying to others. When we speak without eye contact, when we talk only about ourselves, when our account is boring, or when we talk too technically, people lose connection and stop hearing us out.
When we discuss the same story repeatedly, after a while, people are no longer interested in listening to us. Even if we have something new to say, they assume that we will repeat the old story and show no concern in hearing us out, right from the start.
Making others care
As orators, we believe that what we speak about is vital to the world. The fact is that many do not care. If what we talk about is essential, and we are emotional about it, more people will slowly become involved and consider our message.
When anyone we are talking to is attached to the past, there is little chance of perceiving his or her attention. If, for example, your co-worker is talking about an idea, you may not listen to him efficiently if you spot his past performance and feel that his views are not worth seeking or think that there are no capitals to execute new plans in the future. To formulate productive listening, the listener needs to be thoroughly present.
Do you like to hear the cold and critical people all the time? No. Thus, if you are known as a complainer to your director, assistant, or associate, they are not going to get passionate about listening to you. At the start of a conversation, complaints create a negative wave that reduces the other person’s interest in hearing.
Conclusively, understanding why people have no inclination or lose attention in hearing us out helps us find the holes and fill them by improving our conversation skills from both speaking and listening perspectives.