There comes a moment in life when you have to anyhow start talking to strangers due to probably a professional obligation.
Anxiety while talking to strangers is a prominent source of fear in the modern era. I think a big part of that comes from being shielded from harm in our developmental years as children, and we’re fortunate that our parents were able to instill this discretion early in our lives to keep us safe.
But we’re grown up now. The same thing that was helpful for us early on in our life is now dangerous to us as we get older.
There are many examples of this.
Ever seen the teeth of a child who has drunk from a bottle too long? Or sucked their thumb longer than they should? Being content talking to strangers, and being good at it, is am important skill that many people wish they possessed. There are many advantages of being able to do this, both from a personal, and a professional standpoint. This is an important attribute in leadership and must be mastered before it is too late.
So how do you do it? You’ve consumed so many years being scared of strangers, yet now it’s abruptly OK to talk to them? Some of you might even get a job that compels you to talk to strangers every day. People react to this new “Liberty” often in one of two ways. Yes, you guessed it right. It is either negatively or positively. There are many degrees to each reaction, but the nature of the reaction is either positive or negative.
Comfort in talking to strangers can be related to a thermometer.
Warm – People who are prepared to talk to strangers move into the warm scale.
Cold – People who oppose talking to strangers are locked in the cold area of the thermometer.
Whether you are in the hot or the cold scale while reading this, don’t conclude. Everyone who wants to develop in this area can do so easily.
Here is how.
To feel comfortable talking to strangers, you must pretend that you already know them! Simple, unremarkable. This is just common sense, right? Yes, it is. If you already use this approach then you have no problem talking to strangers and you don’t need any help.
But, id you ever find yourself getting anxious at the idea of walking up to someone you don’t know and starting a dialogue with them, then you can benefit from this way of thinking.
The keyword is ‘Pretend’.
However, here are some things you must understand before following the steps above.
- Don’t pretend to know someone from somewhere. It sounds fake and this can be a destructive approach.
- Don’t upset people by passing quick judgments.
- Listen before you speak.