Guilt is a sensitive practice that occurs when a person believes or realizes—explicitly or not—that they have negotiated their standards of conduct or have violated universal moral standards and bear significant responsibility for that violation. Guilt is closely related to the concept of remorse as well as shame.
In leadership, success is sometimes possible when you are guilt-free.
Using the acronym G.U.I.L.T, below you’ll find 5 easy solutions to living guilt-free:
G = Get transparent about what it is you want. So often people live their life in a case of as-soon-as, “As soon as I get that raise”, “As soon as the kids are in school..out of college…wedded”, “As soon as I earn enough money”. What is it about those things you want, and how can you establish them into your life right now?
U = Up your power. Power is the framework for everything you do. Every daily confrontation either gives power or consumes it. Therefore, it’s compelling to frequently refill that power reserve. Caring for yourself is not a waste, primarily because in the past 20 years leisure time has shrunk 40% and work time rose 15%. If you aren’t caring for yourself how will you be able to take care of everyone else?
I = Recognize what it is you are saying “Yes” and “No” to. Whenever you say yes to something, you end up saying no to something else, consciously or unintentionally. Saying no is not greedy. It’s not important to say no to everything, but preferably to say yes to the RIGHT things. Guilt-Free No’s are attached to one’s intentions and purposes.
L = Live your values. Values are not morals or beliefs; they represent your unique self and shape your efforts. When values are consolidated into your daily life, work, and goals, life becomes intrinsically fulfilling. It also generates focus and service.
T = Take time for family. While we can’t do EVERYTHING 100%, we CAN give 100% of what we’re doing right NOW. When you are striving, work. When allocating time to your family, be 100% present. Schedule particular time and events and then guard that time the same as you would an extensive business meeting with your best client. Your relationship is worth it.
