“These exams are not the end of the life. There may be a budding scientist who is having problems memorising the historical dates. There may be a great mathematician who finds it difficult to understand the lines of the Animal Farm. Or there may be an author who just cannot analyse the difference between a real image and a virtual one”
Well it’s the month of March and this marks the arrival of the beautiful spring. And the bright sunny days. With the trees flowering. And a sweet aroma all around.
But wait! With all these happy things in the casket, there is also the presence of something that March has always been known for- Entrance Exams! Yes, that dreadful thing- JEE Mains/ NEET/Boards- that catabolises all our mojo and churns it into a malaise. No matter how hard you have studied all around the year, you can’t escape the Exam-Phobia, courtesy the neighbourhood aunty who keeps bragging how her daughter hasn’t taken sleep past two months and that distant uncle that proudly say how his son eats Physics Formulae and Chemical Reactions in the breakfast and lunch respectively.
And then there are pamphlets all around. On roads, in shops, in buses, everywhere! “90 percent in four weeks. Guaranteed. Or triple fee return.” “We turn the donkeys into horses. We feed ‘smart’ not ‘hard’”.
All these things add up synergistically to build fear in the students, but often parents are the one who get more panicky. You won’t have much trouble finding families where the TV cable connections are cut before the arrival of the storms a.k.a JEE Mains. Some even stop taking calls to prevent the intrusion of the unwanted ‘guests’ in the L.O.C and there are strict diet plans also for the NEET warriors. The pizza and the dairy-milk eventually get replaced by green pastures and dairy ‘milk’.
But it is also the time when the students really need the help of their parents. The pressure is too much and sometimes the overt care of the parents takes the form of exaggeration and children find it really strange. Its few days left for the exams to start. Students will eventually sit for the exam. But as a parent it’s your exam too. You put equal efforts from your side. But how will you know you passed or not?
Here is a small model paper exclusively prepared for you. Give yourself grades on the basis of the activities listed below.
The first activity is for securing the Grade D. You have to secretly put chocolates in the book your child is reading while s/he is taking a nap or out for a while. It’s Easy, isn’t it? In this world full of expectations and cut throat competition at times it might get tough for your child. Making them smile through this tough phase will work wonders.
The second one is for securing a C. Choose a proper time when your child is relaxing and watch a movie together. The movie could be any inspirational one like Hichki (which is based on theme of exams too) or it could be from any genre your child likes. This will really make your child feel at ease. Remember, the less the pressure, the more efficient they will be.
Proudly give yourself a B If you go to your child and share one of your examination stories. Tell them that getting scared is natural but one should not let fear overpower them You can also make up a story on how you were scared too but then the questions came really easy. Tell them to just give their best and not to worry about anything else.
The last task is for grade A and it is very important- Be with your child! Not just during this exam season but also after that. Be with them even if they score poor. Be with them even if they say they need to be left alone. These exams are not the end of the life. There may be a budding scientist who is having problems memorising the historical dates. There may be a great mathematician who finds it difficult to understand the lines of the Animal Farm. Or there may be an author who just cannot analyse the difference between a real image and a virtual one.
Nothing is more beautiful than watching your children smile. Don’t crush those smiles under any pressure. Let exams be just exams.